The Harley Ride: An Introspection on the Value of Relationships (#83) — Transcript
Updated: Oct 26
THE PICTURE OF WEALTH · EPISODE 83
Dustin Serviss reflects on a Harley ride with his father and the value of time spent together. He explores parenthood, shared memories and how relationships change the way we think about wealth.
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Chapters
[00:00:00] Connection without a deep conversation
[00:00:29] A birthday Harley ride with Dad
[00:01:37] Seeing your parents from a new perspective
[00:02:08] Speaking the same language on the road
[00:02:46] Giving a relationship some grace
[00:03:20] Making time for the people who matter
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[00:00:00] Dustin Serviss: And I was on this Harley ride with my father. I realized that when you have a bond with a parent, you don't necessarily have to be having a deep conversation.
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[00:00:29] Dustin Serviss: Recently, Recently, I went on a Harley ride with my father. Again, sunny day, wind in our hair. It was his birthday. I rented a Harley, and the song came on the speakers written by Brian Martin. You guys are gonna chuckle, but I'm gonna do my best to read some of the verses. I was raised up by a simple man. I grew up with a gun in my hand. Taught me how to love and how to fight. Taught me what's wrong and taught me what's right. Said you're gonna have choice to choose. Do what you can and don't ever lose. Just remember even when I'm dead and gone. Stick to your guns, son. Make me proud. Don't ever back up. Don't ever back down.
[00:01:05] Dustin Serviss: Stand your ground and always tell it like it is because this life's gonna be real damn tough. You take them scars and you call that bluff. Don't let me catch you fitting in cause everyone's an outlaw. Now this song resonates with me. I, you know, I've said this before but I have two sons. I've played fought with them and I've taught them firearm etiquette and I, you know, again, my heart goes out to anyone affected by gun violence. But they have been through losing a grandparent and explaining that they didn't just go to sleep, that their body shut down and seeing them digest this is very interesting.
[00:01:37] Dustin Serviss: For a long as I remember, I've always strived to make my parents proud. Now being older and having to digest what my parents really mean to me and seeing what they were seeing when they were my age has me reflecting. And I was on this Harley ride with my father. I realized that when you have a bond with a parent, you don't necessarily have to be having a deep conversation. I used to envy people who talk to their parents each day and they maybe worked on, you know, a project or working a business with them. But my parents and I are in different zones of life and sometimes they
[00:02:08] Dustin Serviss: don't understand how I think and I for sure scratch my head, I think, at their thinking, or what they worry about. You know? But on this ride, we were riding the rolling hills of the South Okanagan and not a car in sight, blue sky, one of us riding in the wrong lane for the straights, riding fast, shifting late, breaking late, smiling ear to ear. We were speaking the exact same language, and we never shared a word for over an hour. Now twenty years ago, we used to ride Sturgis, South Dakota, and this was normal. I haven't owned a bike in years, but simple little afternoon like this in the present while feeling the great memories of the past
[00:02:46] Dustin Serviss: was very powerful. So for all of you who maybe are hard on yourself about your relationship with your parent, give yourself a little grace. Maybe you can't do the things you used to. Maybe they don't see the same views as you do now for whatever reason. Maybe the bond you have you don't think is strong enough. But trust me when I say, the special sauce is right there. You just need to be. Whether it is the dry, same old Sunday supper or the same old phone call where you listen and aren't asked a single question about your life, change the game, change the playing field, invite your parent to go for a walk
[00:03:20] Dustin Serviss: in a busy place, Invite your parent to do something that they like and try your best after the activity to go for a beer. Or when your parent shows up unannounced at your driveway for a Popeye and you're so busy with your life, put the rake, the child, the work, the email, the whatever down and say, what's going on today? Relationship with family, friends, and social connection is wealth. Now I referenced the nun study of nineteen ninety nine. They interviewed nuns that were, you know, forty years ago from the forties, and they watched them through life and then interviewed them fifty years later. And they found out that they were happier.
[00:03:56] Dustin Serviss: You know, the happier nuns early in life lived longer. So the happier you are earlier in life and make it intentional to be happy, the longer you will live a happy life. Now don't know the full story? Ask me. It's short, and it's sweet.
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